We are not our pain. We release ourselves from the judgements we’ve made due to our painful experiences.
The Five Stages of Grief- D.A.B.D.A.
Denial: “I feel fine, there isn’t any problem here.”
Anger: “Why me? It’s not fair!”
Bargaining: “I’ll do anything for a few more years if…”
Depression: “I’m so sad, why bother with anything?”
Acceptance: “It’s going to be okay.”
You are not your feelings. Just because you can feel it doesn’t make it true or false.
Many over identify with an identity of worthlessness, shame, and rejection because it is an experience they’ve lived and emotion they’ve felt throughout their life.
Empathy and compassion is the greatest currency of all. If we haven’t humbled ourselves to receive it, our pockets will be empty when others are in need.
We comfort others with the comfort we have received.
What is common to our human experience is we are all born with a vulnerability to 3 essential needs:
Attention
Approval
Affection
(Google “diff parts of our personality”)
The whole of ourself is the sum of our parts
Our subselves seem to be likes group of people living in the same dwelling. They each have different skills, jobs, ages, values, and needs, and may or may not know about, understand, like, and accept each other. They can ally, fight bitterly, or ignore or hide from some others, like members of any human group. Conversely, if individual subselves are acknowledged, respected, and effectively led, inner-personal stress drops and harmony, energy, spirits, and achievements soar!