Unmet needs, or neglect, as children can be very damaging to our healthy growth. The messages we entertain can set us up for believing our needs are the reason we are in pain, which leads us to judge our needs as bad. We end up in a double bind if we were suffered emotional neglect in our formative years.
Getting back to needs is our only hope in experiencing what scripture talks about, “a need fulfilled is satisfying to the soul.”